There’s nothing wrong with spicing up your love life by making things a little bit more “interesting” in the bedroom. But you should be aware of some positions that are a little bit riskier and downright dangerous for a number of reasons. In fact, one of the most common sexual positions has also been dubbed the most dangerous by a group of scientists.
But before we get into the most dangerous one, here are other sexual positions that are also harmful:
The man is standing on his toes while she’s sitting on a kitchen counter, table or something else at his waist level for maximum entry in front of him.
Why it can be harmful: Most cases of penile fracture—ruptures of the blood-filled tubes in your erection—occur from very vigorous sex, explains Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., who teaches human sexuality and psychology at Harvard University. If your partner is sitting on a countertop and—in your enthusiasm—you miss your target either high or low, your unlucky penis has nowhere to go but into her pubic bone or the counter.
Think of it as a standing missionary position. You’re holding up all her weight, bending backward, and—to facilitate the old in-and-out—you’re flexing your knees and bouncing her up and down on the man’s penis.
Why it can be harmful: Anything acrobatic like this is a lot more likely to lead to back pain or strains for the man. If your footing is unsure you could fall or the woman’s also at risk of being dropped.
While you might have heard crazy stories about how couples have gotten injured by bedposts or end tables, there is a move that has done real damage in the bedroom. Even though it might be one of the top five most-watched sexual positions in porn, the reverse woman-on-top position, aka “the reverse cowgirl,” during intercourse is responsible for half of all penile fractures sustained during sex in cases recorded at three hospitals as part of a Brazilian study published in Advances in Urology.
Experts say this may be because the woman controls the penis with her entire body weight landing on it and is unable to interrupt it when it suffers a ‘wrong way penetration’. The harm is usually minor for her and with no pain – but major in the penis.
Of course, the human penis doesn’t have any bones in it, so when we speak of a penile fracture we are really talking about a tear in the rubbery sheath of tissue known as the tunica albuginea.
According to a 2021 study, such forcible bending of the erect penis can lead “to hematoma formation and classical ‘aubergine’ deformity”. All that technical talk means it hurts very much!
In the study, 28 fractures were sustained during heterosexual sex, four during homosexual sex, six after “penis manipulation” and four in circumstances that remain unclear.
Half of the patients described hearing an audible crack and feeling pain after the incident. Most attended the hospital within the next five or six hours.
“Be careful with how you’re bouncing, because it’s really the slip out and coming down at the wrong angle that can cause injury. Plus, it’s honestly exhausting. I’d suggest instead rocking back and forth, this can give you some good, deep penetration with the ability to use your other hand for a toy or your hand on your clitoris. This position isn’t just about giving your partner a show, it’s about both people having pleasure. I’d suggest leaning back as well, planting both hands on your partner’s thighs for balance, if you feel unsteady. Alternatively, you can lean forward and use the bed for support, if that feels more comfortable.”
“You don’t need to do this position really quickly. Take your time climbing on, be careful to ease yourself down. You can move more slowly during sex, as this can help with feeling more in control. Remember that sex positions are all customisable and we don’t need to perform like professionals to enjoy them.”
It’s easy to get caught up in a passionate moment and take things too far before you are really ready. Keeping things slow at the beginning of a relationship can help you to consciously decide if this is someone with whom you really want to be intimate. Getting to know each other before becoming intimate can enrich a relationship.
Waiting for sex can give you the chance to get to know your partner better before adding the sexually intimate factor into the relationship. Discussing personal histories and possible STD testing can be awkward with someone that you barely know.
Before you start any new physical relationships or engage in any sexual acts with a new partner you should always have an STD screening. You can talk to your doctor about your sexual history and any concerns and they will recommend tests for you.
A healthy sexual relationship is hard to achieve without a good level of communication. Being honest and forthright with your partner and talking about your sexual health can help you to be prepared to move forward together.
Let your partner know if you have any concerns or have had issues with STDs in the past. Full disclosure is the only way to build healthy levels of trust in any relationship.
READ: 5 Pieces Of Furniture That Will Change How You Have Sex
Any woman that is sexually active should be getting regular annual screenings with their doctor. A PAP test and an STD screening should be done at least once a year, even if you haven’t changed partners.
It’s never your partner’s responsibility to make sure that you are safe. Don’t rely on anyone else to have protection when it is needed. Get stocked up on your own supplies and carry them with you to be ready for any kind of spontaneous situation.
Maintaining your sexual health should be a lifelong routine. By adopting a proactive approach into your lifestyle you can help to protect yourself from possible infection and disease.
Meanwhile, the safest position in the bedroom was revealed as the man-on-top or ‘missionary position’. When the man is controlling the movement, he has better chances of stopping the penetration energy in response to the pain related to the penis harm, minimizing it.
By subscribing, you consent to receive emails from BlackDoctor.com. You may unsubscribe at any time. Privacy Policy & Terms of Service.
