Crossing over into my third trimester, I can say first-hand, ‘no’ and ‘yes’. A woman goes through many changes when she is pregnant and not every woman is the same when it comes to sex drive, confidence or even energy. All play a huge factor in having sex during and after a woman is pregnant.
Here’s why I say ‘no’:
During your first and even second trimester, a rush of thoughts, feelings and even the extremities come into play. You not only feel a surge of new hormones rushing through your body, but you also feel an onset of new emotions.
For me, I felt nauseous all the time, I smelled e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g, I was extremely fatigued, my emotions felt
out of whack and I just simply felt gross. This came at a time that everything I read online was telling me I should feel the complete opposite.
Apps, sites and even books insisted that in your second trimester you’ll experience increased libido, become more naturally lubricated and genuinely have an urge for sex.
This was definitely not the case for me.
I did not want to be looked at, let alone be touched. Yet, this was at a time my boobs were getting bigger, thighs started to get thicker and my glow started to show – all things that my husband found very attractive.
However, it got better as my third trimester rolled around…
This is why I
say ‘yes’:
Now, in my third trimester, I can genuinely say, ‘yes’ sex is better when pregnant (and married. lol). I say that because you can actually feel more arousal down there due to extra blood flow to your vulva heightening your sensitivity.
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Also, when you are truly connected to someone, you feel more relaxed and comfortable letting loose, allowing yourself to actually have an orgasm. No, you don’t have to be married, but when you are pregnant, your body is going through a lot of changes.
If you don’t feel safe and grounded with the person you’re laying down with at this time, you’re not only cheating yourself out of a genuine connection but a genuine orgasm too!
Is it even safe to have
sex during your pregnancy?
Sex is considered safe in most pregnancies for all nine months. However, if you have a history of miscarriage or are at higher-risk, your doctor may suggest you avoid sex early-on in the first few months.
No, you won’t crush your baby or “hit them in the head”. Nobody could ever actually be that well-endowed to ever reach your bundle of joy who is nestled safely inside your amniotic sac. Just make sure to take precautions when it comes to the positions you choose and you should be good to go!
Tia Muhammad, BS, is an award-winning freelance content & media creative, copywriter, blogger, digital designer, and marketing consultant. She owns the boutique content and digital media company, jackieGLDN|studio.
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