Love is love they say. But Black love, that’s some other type of magic. When it comes to Black couples in America, we haven’t always had the best reputation or success. With Black men being the #1 incarcerated race and gender in America, and leading the race in deaths by violence, it comes as no surprise why Black couples are the least likely to stay together. Furthermore, I haven’t seen enough information on how Black love works and why Black marriage is important.
So, I gathered my best recollection of when I saw Black love at its best. Here are 5 reasons why Black love is important:
To me Black love is phenomenal. No one “gets you” like your own. I say that because, as a Black woman in America, there are certain trials and experiences that you come upon that are ingrained in you forever.
Whether it was the time someone followed you around a fancy boutique or the time you were talked down to by someone who was seemingly more “well-off” than you, there’s an understanding of common ground that only the two of you can relate to.
The stigma of generational trauma from the time of slavery has always taken a toll on Black love.
From men not being able to protect their wives from slave owners to women not being able to truly show affection in public during those times, Black love is much more than what you see on the surface.
You’re making history every time you stand side by side, every time you walk hand in hand, and every time you both stand up in the face of opposition. Your love for one another and being able to openly express that is history being made.
With all the statistics set out against the sanction of Black couples, the bond creates something telling. Sticking it out through the tough times and holding the love strong is what makes Black love special.
You’re changing the course of all the odds stacked against you by letting your love reflect your
pride, strength, and courage together.
As stated before, love is love. You can’t help who you love or where that love will come from, whether they’re of the same race or not.
However, there is something to the point of allowing your legacy to live on. A legacy is more than wealth, status, or passed-down emblems.
A legacy of experiences, heritage, and pride is just as important. Passing down a legacy of tradition from generation to generation is engrained in the Black community and shines even brighter with Black love.
The strength of love is contagious. Black love is even more infectious, and seeing it uplifts others to seek the same. Prominent figures like Barack and Michelle Obama reflect not only Black love but it does the important job of mirroring to the world what Black couples hold most valuable to them: Respect, friendship, kindness, trust, support, and strength.
Making moves together and taking pride in this kind of love is something magical and just might give encouragement to another that finding and keeping Black love is possible.
Tia Muhammad, BS, is an award-winning freelance content & media creative, copywriter, blogger, digital designer, and marketing consultant. She owns the boutique content and digital media company, jackieGLDN|studio.
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