You want to share your life with someone special, but you haven’t found that someone just yet. Sound familiar? Finding the right mate starts with dating and learning more about that person. So here’s how to refocus your time and energy so you can date better.
1. Give Yourself A Reality Check
Most people ask “How can I find time to date?” But for the sake of their happiness, they should be asking “How can I manage my life more efficiently so I can ?” A good reality check is to look around you and evaluate how many hours others are working or doing similar tasks, such as parenting. Are you working so hard to keep ahead of schedule? Then re-evaluate what you can do to maximize your efforts in less time. Do married people leave the office at 6 p.m.? If so, why can’t you? The key is finding a balanced perspective that physically and mentally allows you more time to date.
2. Know The Signs
Even though this article is about dating better, sometimes dating can be hard. There can be bad dates, people who stand you up, and even others who may take advantage of you. But when something bad happens, take a look at it for what it is. Is that God’s way of showing you who this person really is? Maybe being stood up is a way of showing you not to date this person. Remember, every bad date is an opportunity to know what you don’t want in a mate. One way to look at every sign is to chalk it up as a learning experiment. As long as you learned something from it, you can walk away clean.
3. Quit Wasting Time
In real estate, the key word is location. In the dating world, it’s all about time You have to be extremely vigilant about not wasting your time when you’re looking for “the one.” Dating efficiently means…
… no dating or flirting with unavailable candidates (even if they’re very cute). This includes married people, people who are already in committed relationships, and singles who really don’t want what you want (such as children).
Romantic efficiency also means not going to a party with three friends and standing in the corner just talking to them all night. Instead, go alone – you’re more likely to meet new people. If your giving online dating a chance, this includes not falling in love with an online fantasy for months; when you connect with someone online who seems promising, meet within two weeks and make sure the reality is as good as the fantasy.
Because you’re busy, you have to constantly monitor that you are putting your limited time to the best possible use. That attitude will help improve your chances of finding someone truly special (and help you balance your overall life, as well).
4. Be The Person You Want To Date
It’s becoming a cliche statement, but the term, “Be the change you want to see” is true in many different areas. In dating, it works the same way. If you want an honest, loving, funny, sexy mate, be that. If you want someone who listens, be that! Dating can be difficult, but only as difficult as you make it. Remember, it’s about finding more of who you are, who you want, and more importantly who you don’t want.
Have fun and be safe!
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