I can still remember my childhood best friend. I looked forward to meeting her each day at school even though we spoke on the phone in the mornings before and also in the evenings after school. We were inseparable! I remember always feeling safe and loved in our friendship.
Do you remember your childhood best friend?
Friendships are invaluable and should be cherished. My best friends celebrate with me when I’m at my best but still love me when I’m at my worst. They remind me of who I am and what I deserve even (and especially) when I forget. We do life together.
Consider yourself very fortunate if you have at least one best friend.
We usually treat our friends with love, kindness, and respect. Becoming your own best friend is sometimes more difficult. You know your shortcomings and faults and might not be as likely to forgive yourself as others. The grace we give to others, we seldom extend to ourselves.
You should befriend yourself first and foremost and cherish that friendship above all others. Being your own best friend will boost your self-image and self-confidence and you become more inspiring to others. You’ll be more likely to hold yourself accountable for the mistakes you make and expect more of yourself in every situation.
Being your own best friend means that you will also have standards in your relationships. You will teach others how to treat you by the way you treat yourself.
So…love You!
Let’s discuss some steps to becoming your own best friend:
Just as you love to hang out with your best friend, learn how to enjoy being in your own company from time to time. Take yourself out for dinner or go see a movie. Don’t wait for someone to come along to take you on your dream trip, go solo! By cultivating this treasured friendship, you stop needing others to be your companion.
True self-love means getting rid of those negative thoughts about yourself. Be supportive and encouraging. You would never speak to your best friend in the harsh manner you sometimes speak to yourself. Accept who you are; the good and the bad. Like who you are even when you make a mistake or a bad decision. When you like yourself, you’ll be happier, and others will enjoy being around you.
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Do random acts of kindness for yourself every day. Be intentional about it. You should put your love into action by eating foods that are good for you, and getting plenty of exercise and rest. Yes, you should rest. You don’t have to say how amazing you are; learn to accept praise graciously.
A best friend knows what to say to bring comfort and support, but you should also be able to self-soothe in a healthy manner. Not with food, sex, alcohol or other addictive behavior such as self-pity, but in a productive way. Be sure you’re not dependent on someone else to fulfill your needs. Whether it’s finances, managing tasks, or emotional support, learn to take responsibility for yourself.
This means something totally different to everyone. When you are more in touch with your emotions and desires, you can imagine more clearly what your best life would look like. Would you want to be healthier, start a new business venture, or be a better parent or spouse? When you know what your best life looks like, you can take the steps to make it a reality.
When you become your own best friend, you improve your self-image and become more self-confident. You take responsibility for creating and living the life you’ve always desired. Being your own best friend means you’re no longer stuck in unhealthy relationships because you’re afraid of being alone.
And, when you’re a best friend to yourself, others will be attracted to you because of your positive attitude and your joy.
Physician, Health and Wellness expert, Coach, Author and Speaker! Dr. Kelly Wood, MD is board certified in Internal Medicine as well as Endocrinology, Diabetes and Metabolism. Beyond the stethoscope, Dr. Kelly is recognized as “The Bounce Back Coach,” helping high-performing women to bounce back from failed relationships, rebuild their self-esteem, and reclaim their identity. Follow me on social media @drkellywoodmd or connect with me at [email protected]
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